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Coaching and Cancer Interview

In this video I relate my experience with cancer and coaching:

KeyLinks Newsletter – Autumn 2010

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It is an early autumn, rainy, moody and full of colors! For those of us who are born in November this is our season – regardless of when it starts. From long habit this is my month to go to Australia. I arrive in Melbourne on September 18 and hope to see many dear fiends there.

I will be working on leadership with group women academics from the University of Melbourne. In preparation for my time there, I have reviewed leadership and its many perspectives. For your interest included are two short articles in which I explore some of the ways that leadership grows and can be recognized:

Learning About Leadership – The Extraordinary Experiences

Learning About Leadership – The Everyday Experiences

Although I have taken the term ‘destiny’ out of the title of this page, it remains in my thoughts. When I was told in April that I had breast cancer. I was taken aback and couldn’t make sense out of the news. The results of tests and biopsies proved the diagnosis – operation and radiation have confirmed that I am among the fortunate who have no trace of cancer left in my body. It has been a steep learning curve about how I am willing to deny, bargain and finally accept reality. As a coach I will practice my profession with greater understanding and compassion.

I have included the second chapter of my Camino writings and hope that you continue to enjoy them. I owe so much to Barbara Turner-Vesselago for her support, the challenges she has given me and her insight into my writing. Without her inspiration and encouragement I wouldn’t be where I am now – and that is within two chapters of finishing!

Learning About Leadership – The Everyday Experience

It is common practice to read books about leadership, biographies of leaders and to take courses, seminars and presentations. Today I would like to consider some of the ‘home grown’ aspects of leadership: adventures, work based learning environments and conversations. These three deal with the lived experience and provide a reality check for exploring leadership components in theory. They form a significant part of what, how and where we learn about leading.

Adventures
When we embark on an adventure – however we define it – we leave our taken-for-granted world. In the context of the adventure, we face the challenge of making sense out of who we are, what we do and what we value. The time frame is often compacted and so our learning is intense. Sometimes we gain new insights, often we re-learn old lessons. Much like the heroes of old, the adventure is the beginning of a quest – into new places and new ways of being.

My adventure happened this September when I went on the Camino de Santiago de Compostella, a pilgrimage walk of 800 km across northern Spain. Like all of our adventures, the context has many layers. The Camino is couched in history from the early Celts who walked to the western most tip of Europe to the Christians who made pilgrimages to the tomb of St. James the Apostle. So given its long history and its present day following, I ask myself ‘what were they seeking? why are we doing the pilgrimage now? What is it we are seeking’? What became obvious is that we don’t really know why it beckons. The ‘why’, the sense of purpose, grows with time and effort. It reminds me of the purpose story which leaders tell – a story which reaches back into the past and our sense of identity. As I listen to these stories I recognize that they are complex and multiple – told and retold each time with different meaning. And I recognize how unique each of our answers to these questions are.

Even before the quest can be fully identified, some lessons are clear. First, travel light. Consider what you really need. Pare down or add as your priorities become clearer. Have a contingency plan. Second, knowing yourself and others is key. As the quest goes on, there are many challenges to your values, your assumptions and how you live with yourself and others. Knowing how this process empowers you, leads you to accept yourself and others is important. Thirdly, having a vision is key to emotional health. It provides a sense of the bigger picture, it shows us how to focus, to deal with passing events, friendships, life and death. With a vision, it becomes clearer which goals are easily attainable. Clear too where dreams are – and how to hold them in the open palm of your hand. A vision challenges us to examine our assumptions, to live our potential. Finally, decisions are often born in moments of crisis or in moments of extreme difficulty. Those deeply felt decisions grow into commitment and commitment itself gives impetus to new decisions.

Adventures have the power to put us on the age-old path, the quest that is at the heart of leadership.

Conversations
Why is it that some people have such rich, open conversations? To answer that question is to think about the small moments in talk. Each small moment opens up or closes off the next set of possibilities. And as those moments accumulate, we develop an understanding of what space there is between us and what is open to exploration. Stereotypes, generalizations and judgments color what is available to us.

Quite possibly it is the art of questions that lets us best negotiate the space. To ask a question with little or no pre-judgment as to what will be the right answer is a gift. All too often our questions are offered with the ‘right’ answer in mind – or the anticipation of a certain reply. It is as though we carry on an inner dialogue which precludes the unexpected response. And so without clearing our listening, our conversation has set limits within which to operate.

The leaders who ask compelling, fundamental questions do us a service. This is particularly true when the leaders join us in the search for answers. As the search for answers and space to talk about them goes on, we are freed from our own closed world. I notice that in healthy organizations the amount of talk and the patterns of authentic engagement are fundamentally different. Talk happens between levels, functions and across purpose and strategy. There is less fear of making mistakes or being blamed.

Workplace based learning
As a Visiting Fellow at Edith Cowan University, I had the opportunity to research workplace based learning. For last ten years at British universities have focused on learning in the workplace. One of the assumptions of this initiative is that learning cannot separated from its context. Learning links the individual to the organisation and vice versa. There is mounting pressure from students and employers as well as universities to shift more post graduate degrees in this direction. Its effectiveness is supported by a growing number of research studies and thesis. As this movement becomes better known it will fuel the desire for a learning that ‘works’ at work. So far it is not a focused conversation although the initiative has a lot of energy.

To test the approach, think of your first promotion and what you learned about yourself, the organization and your colleagues. From my experience, it dramatically changed and deepened my understanding and knowledge of the politics of power, values, culture and what a career might look like!

Reframing Learning about Leading

It is an age-old question: are leaders born or are they made? Although we recognize that some people appear to be born leaders, it is commonly accepted that the values, knowledge, and skills of leadership develop with experience. To learn – formally or informally – begins with the organic nature of our lived experience. Much of our knowledge about leading is tacit, buried in our experiences. To reflect on the experiences that shape our leadership and to claim them as unique is crucial to the work of leading. This reflective process opens up the world of intuition, and we become more aware of the complexity of leading our lives and living with others. Continue reading

The only adult way to work

Each summer, Lisa Christenson, writer and art critic, leads groups of art enthusiasts and hikers into Skoki Lodge, deep in the Canadian Rockies. The trip I enrolled on was composed entirely of small business entrepreneurs – all five of us! As I talked with one of my companions about her work as a consulting engineer and her plans to start up her own software company, she summed up her experience with “It’s the only adult way to work.” Continue reading